Dating Over 65: How to Safely Date Later in Life

Older adults often reenter the dating world when they are close to retiring or have already left the working world behind. It’s generally following the death of a spouse or a later-in-life divorce. In fact, the term gray divorce was coined to describe the increasing trend of getting a divorce after retirement.

If you are one of the 19.5 million adults over the age of 65 who are single, you might be wondering if dating again is an option. And if so, how to go about finding someone who is a good match for you and your lifestyle. If it’s been a while since you were part of the dating world, much has changed. And most of those differences are related to the internet.

While an increasing number of seniors are active users of email and social media, fewer may be comfortable finding a potential partner online. These tips can help you stay safe.

Carefully Consider Dating Sites

A few dating sites older adults might want to explore include:

• OurTime: A subsidiary of Match.com, this site is dedicated to adults over the age of 50. Fees vary according to the length of the subscription you sign up for—generally from one to six months. They currently range from $15.96 to $34.96 per month.
• Silver Singles: This is another site designed exclusively for adults aged 50 and over. Silver Singles offers a free basic membership or an upgrade that offers more features. If you sign up for an entire year, the monthly cost is $24.95. Those wishing to join for only three months will pay $44.95 each month.
• Niche dating sites: There are a surprising number of dating sites that cater to hobbies, backgrounds, and beliefs. Whether you’re looking for a nature lover or a traveler, a little research can help you find a good match.

As is true for anyone trying to make new connections using the internet, you should proceed with caution. Some unfortunate people have lost their savings to scammers who use dating sites to target people.

5 Safety Tips for Seniors Dating Online

1. Hold off on in-person meetings: While someone might seem like a perfect match based on their dating profile, don’t jump right into setting up a personal meeting. Email and phone calls help you get a better idea of who the person really is. Once you do decide to meet in person, do so in a public place. Consider bringing a friend or family member along, even if it’s only to sit at another table to discreetly monitor the situation.
2. Take things slow: When a new romantic prospect says “I love you” early in an online relationship, it can be a red flag for a scam. Criminals commonly use this tactic to try to get their victim to make an emotional commitment. Seniors should steer clear of anyone who confesses love after a few dates or conversations.
3. Don’t talk finances: While it might seem obvious that you shouldn’t give a stranger money or co-sign on a loan, scammers are very clever in presenting their request. They might say they need cash and will write you a check in return. Another might claim they are low on funds until their next payday or Social Security check. Or they need travel money to meet you in person. Whatever the scenario, don’t give away money or discuss your finances with anyone.
4. Make loved ones aware of your plans: Whenever you plan to go on a date, make sure you share with loved ones the date, time, location, and name of the person you are meeting. Tell them what time you plan to be home by and ask them to check in if they don’t hear from you by then. It also helps to learn as much as you can about a prospective date. A Google search might be a good place to start for more information.
   

Online Dating Isn’t for Everyone

Internet dating definitely isn’t for everyone. Many older adults are finding a better approach to be meeting people through shared hobbies and interests. Maybe your church or synagogue has a singles group? Or you might try joining the local senior center. Another option would be to sign up for classes—from art classes to gardening workshops—to learn new skills or hobbies. You’ll likely make new friends and possibly even find a romantic partner.

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